Wednesday, January 7, 2009

A Day In The Life...

This morning my DD was the last one to wake up, last one to get dressed, and last one to get in the car all because she didn’t have anything to wear – she’s 7. The drawer for tops was full of tops, the drawer for bottoms was full of bottoms. This is a frequent problem that has yet to be resolved. Most of the problems are with the bottoms, and fall into one of these categories:
  • there aren’t tights to match the outfit
  • the elastic on the knit pants isn’t tight enough – she owns them but refuses to wear jeans or pants of any woven fabric, even if they sparkle
  • these pants feel like there are a thousand stitches against my legs – I finally discovered that the pants she referred to were made out of some french terry where the loopy weave is on the inside
  • the skirts are too dressy – what? I thought it was just the dresses that were too dressy?


What am I to do with this child?

Before Christmas I finally placed an order with Fabric Fairy. And look at this. What girly girl wouldn’t just to drool over this package of fabric?? I proceeded to make one pair of pink pants, a floral/patchwork top, and a psychedelic dress both from Burda 9627. In addition, I’d already made two skirts from McCall’s 5169 paired with purchased T’s and tights. (I don’t have pictures, but will share a quick video of her fashion show on Christmas day.) Today all those clothes were dirty, waiting to be washed. And, they haven’t really passed the real-world test yet, just the “I’ll wear it for the fashion show at grandma’s house” test.

I’ve never made an issue about how she puts together an outfit. It’s not worth the argument. And eventually her peer’s will take care of that. But when there’s a closet and dresser full of clothes and she doesn’t have anything to wear because it doesn’t “feel” right? Iyieeyiee (sp?)

Her final outfit was a white peasant blouse with dark purple embroidered flowers, an aqua and brown cotton geometric print skirt with a ruffle, black leggings, bright purple socks, and brown shoes with pink flowers. When we kissed goodbye she didn’t have a care in the world! I’m very sorry I don’t have a picture to share.

Feel free to offer advice or just share your stories!

14 comments:

Amy said...

I have no advice for you - I'm going through the same thing at my house!

Since I homeschool my kids, I don't get them up until about 8:30. In the time that it takes for my 6 yo DD to pick out an outfit and then get dressed, her older sister and I have eaten breakfast and completed at least one spelling lesson!

Like your DD, Rachael has a ton of excuses as to why she can't wear this or that, and I've gotten to the point of thinking, "Why am I making you stuff that you won't wear?"

Brooke said...

I have no advice for you, but perhaps my mom would. Because I am 32 and I STILL go through that. But now of course it is my problem, not my mom's. I don't know how she put up with me for 18 years. And my cats don't seem to mind how we dress them. :-P

wendy said...

I love the fabric fairy too. Such great stuff! I bought some of their flannel in December for a some PJ presents, and it was soooo wonderful and soft!

I'm not sure if this would be helpful, but is it possible that your daughter has Sensory Processing Disorder? The thing about her clothing "doesn’t “feel” right" sounds like SPD.

I used to drive my parents INSANE when I was a little kid because of clothing texture, clothing tags (they have to come entirely out or I go nuts), wrinkles in my socks, and all kinds of things. I found out years later that I have a mild case of SPD... it was actually kind of a relief to discover that it was something "real". I have a nephew with the same thing, but he's been diagnosed as a baby and so he's getting some therapy for it. In most cases it's not very serious, but it's also not the kid just being difficult to be difficult! Anyway, some people outgrow it- I've learned to ignore it a bit, but you will never find a clothing tag in any of my clothes because of it. ;-)
Anyway. Possibly something to look into, or it could just be a 7 year old being a 7 year old. :-)

Summerset said...

BTDT. That and my daughter will really want a garment, I'll spend tons of time making it and she won't wear it. Ugh. I've eliminated all the stuff from her wardrobe that didn't match, didn't fit and wasn't up to my standards. She is now forced to wear what is there because there isn't anything else. I also made her a wardrobe SWAP style so that it all mixes and matches.

What is worse is that I took her fabric shopping last weekend to buy fabric for turtlenecks, pulled out four fabrics and she didn't like any of them. She thought I was going to stop at Old Navy on the way home and buy her some tops. Nope. She came home with nothing, no shirts or fabric. Next time maybe she'll pick something when I suggest it.

Birgitte said...

LOL! My 6 year old is thankfully in uniform and the closet is arranged so it all hangs in a separate spot. But my oldest went through the same thing and eventually I had her pick out the outfit down to the hair clip before going to bed and then made her stick to it the next day. Personally, I'm super sensitive to texture, but I don't view it as a disorder. To me it's a gift. It enhances my experience working with, and wearing, wonderful fabrics. And also; it's a good excuse to be a fabric snob :))

Dawn said...

I can only imagine what my twins will be like. They are two and already very opinionated about what they want to wear. Today one is wearing red sweatpants with a pink (tiger striped with light pink) ruffley top. The other girl is wearing her brother's pants and her "cozy" shirt. They don't want *the same* clothes so I guess I should be thankful for something.

Dana said...

Thanks for the great responses! All info will be taken under consideration!

merry-one said...

My daughter just turned 7. She will only wear jeans or "velvet pants" and a hoodie/sweatshirt with a turtleneck. She has a drawer full of skirts and sweaters plus a lot of dresses that she loved when I purchased or made them for her. She refuses to wear tights, will only wear footless tights or some leggings (I don't understand the criteria for the type).

My solution, I hide her clean clothes until she wears everything in her drawer and I try to get her to pick it out the night before. She still hasn't found my hiding space, yeah!

Good luck, I feel for you.

Elaray said...

This really makes me smile. My DD was NOT a "girly" girl by any stretch of the imagination, but we went through the same scenario most morning. The, a dress code was insituted at her school and life got infinitely easier. That doesn't help you though. :(

Tamara said...

My 4 year old son is a bit like that. He doesn't complain about the feel as much but he has definite opinions what he will and will NOT wear. He wears the same thing over, and over, and over again. I am so tired of seeing those clothes but I don't want to fight either. I am sorry this isn't any help except to know that you are not alone in your child dressing challenges. :)

Lindsay T said...

My daughter was just like yours and the others as far as touch. It was so frustrating! But she did grow out of that phase, though she is still fussy about what she wears. I have learned to NEVER throw out a receipt and to monitor when pricetags are cut off. Things are easier now that DD is 16 and pays for some of her clothes with the money she earns from babysitting--she's learned to make wiser purchases. And I only sew for her when she wants something she can't find retail. She's just too fussy to waste time on things she might ultimately reject. (Mind you, she is a great kid despite the portrait I'm painting of her here.)

Sheila said...

The only advice I can give is to ask her to select 2 outfits the night before. My daughter is 20 now and there is a constant battle of what to wear. Once I got her into the habit of selecting outfits the night before its been a lil better. A lil better meaning 2-3 days out of the week she will change her mind about what she prepared the night before...lol

Marsha said...

I think we have the same child! I can't count the number of days when I've almost forced my daughter (7) to change her clothes because she's not wearing anything that matches. But then I remind myself that she got dressed all by herself--and she's so proud of her outfit ("See Mom, these both have stripes, so they match!"). You choose your battles. :)

disa said...

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